**Update**

Well it was the right phone and the right person.  She called my home phone about 3 hours later and as soon as I said hello she started screaming at me.  Every other word must have been the “f” word.  She said how dare I call her phone and leave a message and that he doesn’t want a visit.  I had a very difficult time understanding her.  I calmly told her that yes he does want a visit.  He told me so on Sunday and he told his sister last week that he did.  She continued screaming something and then hung up.  I calmly called her cell phone again and left another message.  Gee, did she just tell me not to do that?  Too bad so sad.  She called again and said something about calling the police and other stuff I couldn’t understand and hung up again.  So, I called her cell phone AGAIN and left a message giving her permission to call the police because I have nothing to hide and I was pretty sure she would end up being the one in trouble if she did call them.  She hasn’t called again.  Not once did I raise my voice to her or threaten her.  She’s digging her own grave and I’m going to let her.

**End Upate**

I don’t know if it’s even to the right person or phone. I asked how she would feel if her daughter was staying with someone who wouldn’t let her see or talk to her. I then said Happy Fourth of July to you and hung up.

Hubby won’t let me just go get him. He says R knows he can come home and it’s up to him to make the next move. R’s phone has been dead since I talked to him Sunday. He’s obsessed with his phone. There is no way he would willingly leave it off for that long. I just want to scream.