Letting Go Doesn’t Mean Hanging Out To Dry
May 9th, 2008
Oldest has called twice since he checked himself out of the therapeutic foster home. He says he regrets what he has done. I was very calm with him and non-accusatory and gave him information that will help him get in touch with the people who can help him. I’m sure he’s waiting for me to say come home, but I can’t won’t do that. He has spurned our attempts to help him too many times and I won’t fall in to that trap again. I will be there for him to give guidance, but I will not step in and “rescue” him. He needs to learn that his actions have consequences and that he is responsible for his own actions. Sounds harsh, I know, but bailing him out every time he makes mistakes won’t teach him anything except that he can continue to make mistakes and not learn from them.
I continue to pray for his safety and well being.
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May 13th, 2008 at 4:01 pm
I don’t know the circumstances and all that, but what you say rings true to me. We need to let our children experience the natural consequences of their actions if they are to learn and develop. This is so hard, but it is what they need most sometimes. Sounds like you are trying hard to love your son in the best way possible — by letting him learn. My heart goes out to you, though — I know it must be terribly difficult. Hang in there!
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