Oldest has decided he does not need to be in the therapeutic program he’s been in for a while anymore. He’s 18 and has about 3 weeks of school left at an alternative school he has been attending for the last 2 years. He has not lived with us for those 2 years but up until 4 months ago came home on weekends and called weekly. He’s apparently now staying with his 16 year old girlfriend, whom we did not know about and have never met, and her mother. From what I understand the mother took him to school yesterday and he does plan on finishing school, which is a relief. As I said, he’s 18 and he feels that he does not have to stay in touch with us or let us know how he is doing. The only reason I know about what is going on is that the place he was staying before he discharged himself called me to let me know. They also had been keeping me out of the loop of his life since he turned 18 until now. He effectively blew his free ride to a trade school. I don’t know what he will do now. He is very capable with his hands and when he likes what he is doing and gets to do things he wants without being “bossed” he’s a very hard worker. I’m just not sure that he can hold a job for long the way he views authority. And, I fear that he has gotten in to drugs as well. That on top of his mental illness will make it difficult for him. I don’t know if he’ll know how to get the services he needs or if he will want to continue those services. He needs meds and he may not continue to take them as he should. I know that this girl’s mother has no idea what she is getting in to.

He still has not contacted us. He has a history of being charming until rules are enforced that he feels are “unfair”. In his eyes we are the most unfair people he knows. We were supposed to let him do what he wanted, when he wanted, no matter what it was. Sorry, that’s not how we operate. He has tried over and over to negatively influence his brother and sister at home. They are both angry with him and fearful for (and of) him. I was given information to be able to contact him, but I will not do that. I will pray for his safety and hope that someday he will understand why we did the things we did for him.